“R U OK ?Day is a national day of action on the second Thursday of September (13 September 2012), dedicated to inspiring all people of all backgrounds to regularly ask each other ‘Are you ok?’ ~ R U OK Day Website
This is something that is, has and always will be, something very close to my heart. You truly never know when a simple “Are you ok” can save a person’s life. An example of this is an Australian hero, in my eyes, Don Ritchie who spent 50 years living on a road opposite a notorious suicide jump spot. He would look out the window each and every day and if he say someone standing close to the edge just looking lonely he approached them and asked if they wanted a cup of tea, his way of saying are you ok. That would then lead to conversations and the people stepping away from the edge and living their lives. He saved, approximately, 160 people from ending their lives at that cliff.
When was the last time you just out of the blue messaged someone on your plurk friends list, facebook friends list, SL friends list, or picked a phone number from your phone that you rarely hear from and just started up a conversation and asked how they were? That one conversation you have that day could make a lasting impact and help someone tremendously. It’s also kind of ironic that this year R U OK Day falls on the day before I am scheduled to go into hospital for surgery. While the operation I am having is not life threatening, it’s a simple knee operation, I myself am a threat to my own operation. I’m a plus size girl, and while I am comfortable in my body shape and don’t try to change “me” to fit in to what society classes as normal or pretty; I am now worried and have been on edge for the past week or so leading up to my surgery for fear of complications whilst under anesthetic. You see as a larger person it takes a bit more “drugs” to knock you out. I also suffer with asthma (and I smoke which doesn’t help) so they will be shoving a tube down my throat to aid my breathing while asleep. All of these things means I had to have a “talking to” before my operation to let me know of the risks and complications because of my size, even though the surgery is necessary for me.
Now with all this stress on me at the moment I’ve been quite down. My partner, Vinny, is from Canada so the timezones are a bit of a mess not to mention he goes to college 5 days a week and is usually pretty buggered after a long day. But he stayed up tonight to message me and make sure I was ok for tomorrow. Of course his kindness and love and his caring ways made me break down and cry and I let it all out. But it was what I needed. I needed to get rid of some of my anxiety before tomorrow and he was my rock.
Three simple words can change a life, save a life or simply help put a smile back on a face when it’s most needed. Have you said it today?
Skin: Glam Affair – Leah Light – 04
Hair: LOGO – Kaitlyn Mesh Hair
Eyes: Insufferable Dastard – Snowfall Eyes / Seasons Gatcha / Hazel
Nails: Scrub – Rockers Nails
Necklace: KOSH – Demonica Necklace [WGF Edition]
Ring: Naith Smith Designs – Blood Diamonds Ring
Top: Sn@tch – Shannon Lace Tees
Jacket: House Of Fox – Color.Me.H.O.F [ScarletBlazer] (mesh) *Collabor88 Sept*
Shorts: House Of Fox – Color.Me.H.O.F [TailoredShorts] (mesh) *Collabor88 Sept*
Shoes: G Field – Open Boots “Vilda” -black-
Pose: !bang – mini series – without purpose #3